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I decided to discuss the issue I have with this phrase because it really does bother me.
While we were pregnant with Baby Boy, I heard it quite often. Everyone says it, whether male or female whether they have children or not, it just seems like the phrase to say.
I don’t like it. I don’t like it because it connotes that by being pregnant you have not yet reached the world of motherhood. I beg to differ. Simply by being pregnant you are already a mother.
It takes the thinking of a mother to aid in the growth of the baby you are carrying. As a mother, you think about things like: what foods to eat and those foods might affect the growing baby, what medications to take or not, ways to nurture baby while in the womb, not drinking alcohol, limiting caffeine, exercise, and increasing your own food intake.
There are so many books and websites to read, topics to explore not only about pregnancy, but labor and birth, and parenting, too!
But there are other things, like staying away from sick people so as not to get sick yourself, tests that are available during pregnancy and how they may affect the baby, keeping stress low, sleeping more, buying clothes that fit your pregnant and ever-changing body.
Then there are the physical changes that women undergo. All those physical changes take quite a bit of time to recover from and preparing for labor and birth. The postpartum body is quite different and can take more than a year to reconfigure itself. Not only that, there are aspects of your body that will never quite be the same again.
In other words, all I’m saying is we should all give expectant women recognition of their motherhood status even before their child is born.
There is a bit of work that goes into growing a child, both during pregnancy and after. Just because the work is different before baby is born, doesn’t mean it’s not worthwhile and important motherhood work.
There are the preparations, even if a full nursery isn’t set-up, medical/midwife appointments, registering, financial planning/stability, relationship changes (yes, even friends may change), emotional changes. There are so many changes that a pregnant woman undergoes which aren’t, at least in my opinion, “mom to be” tasks and changes, they are simply the changes of motherhood.
Tell me what you think about the phrase “mom to be”. Does it bother you or not? Do you agree or disagree with my opinion?