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You are getting so so big. You just hit your 14 month birthday! I marvel at how tall you are and at the way you move through the world. I’m constantly amazed at how interested in everything you are and how you are always trying something new. I’m impressed at your strength, problem-solving, and both the effort and joy in your accomplishments. You want to climb and play and share in all that you know and learn about all that you don’t know.
You communicate more and more with us. You have mastered the few signs we’ve taught you, seemingly always asking to eat, for cookies, or more. You love food and it’s so incredibly adorable how you say “mmm mmm” when you’re eating something. Oh and the words! Of course, you’re still saying “all done”, but you’ve added “yes”, “oww”, “dog”, “duck”, “eye”, “eyebrow” (bow), and “blueberry” (buubuu). I’m sure there are a few more, but these are the ones I hear most often.
Despite the amount of food and frequency with which you eat, you are still quite active and serious about breastfeeding. I’m struck by how the few signs you know seem to have opened up the floodgates for you when it comes to communicating. You will literally come to get our attention and stand there signing (sometimes accompanied by whining if we’re not quick enough) until you get what you want. And even if you don’t know the sign for something, you’re always letting me know about some event. If something fell, or you can’t figure out how to get something, you’ve lost a toy (while you’re playing with it), you come get me and point until I figure it out. You’ll even help look for things. The way you squat and bend over to look under the furniture, as you’ve seen me do hundreds of times, is so cute. And I just have to laugh sometimes at how you seemingly shrug your shoulders and put your arms out to the side when you don’t know where something is that I’ve asked for. I do appreciate how you will help to clean up when I ask or hand me something I’ve asked for.
But the tantrums! Son, you have got to give us a break with the tantrums. I know you’re expressing yourself. I know you’re trying to let us know when you’re unhappy or dislike something. But, really?? Does it have to be so incredibly dramatic? Is is possible to tone it down a notch or two? Oh, and let me not forget the aggression. The biting and hitting is getting a little out of hand. I’m not pleased about this in the least. I wonder what I’ve done – how we’ve somehow taught or allowed this to happen. I honestly don’t know. Could you help me out a bit? I really don’t want to physically discipline you and we do try very hard not to. At times though, a pop on the hand we give, especially when it’s become too much or we’re taken off guard. I know it is shocking and stings a bit to get those little hands of yours popped on occasion. But, son, I’m at a loss. I feel like I should know something else to do, but quite honestly, other than talking, I kinda don’t. So, maybe if you could just stop with the biting and the hitting. You think this is possible? I would really appreciate it and thank you in advance.
But on to lovelier topics. Your sense of wonder and pleasure in all things lights me up. Sometimes I’m a bit down, this is only because I want more for you and yet we’re still in our current place. Your Papa and I are thinking and working on going somewhere else, we know that would be better for you well as us. It takes time. I know you don’t understand any of this, just know that we are always working on something more/better for you. You’re always wanting to go outside and so we do, but then you sometimes look at me as if you’re saying, “now what?”. Well, son, that’s part of the reason we’re trying to move. I want you to want to go outside, to explore, to see, to find, to do…
Anyway, I just want you to know, now and always, that you are Awesome and Incredible! You bring Life and Joy and Pleasure and Happiness to everyone, everywhere! You are Amazing and Talented and Intelligent and remind us all of Possibility! You are You and there really is no other like you. Just as one of my favorite books to read you says, “For never before in story or rhyme (not even once upon a time) has the world ever known a you, my friend, and it never will, not ever again…” (On the Night You Were Born, Nancy Tillman)
I love you, Baby Boy! I love you so very much! No matter what I say during those exasperated or tired moments, don’t ever stop growing and learning. Always look at the world with wonder and joy. Always explore. And keep being who you are every minute of every day (minus the biting and hitting). Oh, and please, please, please keep giving those hugs and kisses as freely as you already do, they spark my heart in a way I can’t explain!