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My days are crazy, I don’t get anything done, and everything is so out of order.
Ever have any thoughts like this? If you’re a mom, I betting you have.
Let’s take a look at how my days typically begin:
Monkey Boy moves as he wakes up and that rouses me. He usually kicks and rubs my face, while simultaneously trying to “hold” Turtle Boy. After we share a few rounds of ‘I love you’, a small fit ensues. Typically, Monkey Boy’s fit is about whether or not he can watch videos. I get lost down the rabbit-hole of the internet, as we all wake up, thus causing more problems. Breakfast options are offered, followed by a struggle for everyone to get dressed. Turtle Boy, at this point, can’t decide if he’d like to sleep longer or not, so I keep on with the breastfeeding. All the while, I’m thinking of what will happen next and how I’ll keep Monkey Boy entertained, engaged, and less noisy. Generally, there’s quite a bit of struggle, yelling, or otherwise stressed and overwhelmed behavior happening, from me more than Monkey Boy.
And this is just the beginning of the day. Sounds exhausting, doesn’t it? Let me tell you, it is!
I’ve noticed when my days start like it, it’s that much harder for me to focus on anything, much less accomplish a single goal. In addition, my fuse is often shorter than I’d like and I often feel like I’m fighting everyone and no one at the same time. I tend to forget vitamins, vowing to take them after dinner, which I inevitably forget, eventually deciding it doesn’t matter anyway.
Once 5:30 rolls around, I’m beat, both literally and figuratively. There’s still so much to do, yet I am exhausted and have little to no energy for any interaction, with anyone. I find I’m waiting for Monkey Boy’s bedtime alarm, when all I want is peace and quiet.
And so there’s a cycle. A seemingly unending cycle day in and day out.
I’m in a near-constant state of frustration and Monkey Boy feeds off my negative energy. Actual fun is at a minimum. Basic enjoyment, happiness, and gratitude for the life I’ve been given suffers, as well. Overall, everyone is miserable and unhappy.
So, something has to change. And soon. But to do this, I need to look at the traps I’ve created for myself.
Trap #1: Not getting up first. Which then flows into not taking time to care for me, plan the day, or even just breathe a few thoughts, sans interruptions.
Trap #2: Making excuses for not taking good care of me, leading to massive episodes of increased stress and overwhelm.
Trap #3: Being inconsistent. Everything needs more consistency – routines, requests, consequences/redirection, and just getting the day started.
Trap #4: Not consistently taking my vitamins, nor my placenta.
Trap #5: Not getting to bed/sleep at a reasonable hour.
I don’t know how many of you fall into these traps yourselves. Maybe you traps are different from mine. All I know is I need to make some serious changes.
Through the course of pregnancy, postpartum, and the holidays, I’m more and more slack than ever. And, you know what? It’s driving me crazy.
Or more aptly, I’m driving myself crazy. Meanwhile I keep telling myself that both Monkey and Turtle Boy are keeping me from doing the things I know I need to do.
What a lie to tell myself, no?
Well, it’s definitely time to change.
Over the next month, I’m going to be talking about what changes I plan to make, as well as how I’ll implement them, and also updates on the changes.
I’m not being the mom I know I can be, nor the mom I want to be. What’s more, I’m not being the person I know I can be!
I’ve heard before, “when you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired, then you’ll do something”. I’m most certainly sick and tired of being sick and tired. And, I’m ready for change!
Thus, I’ve decided that I need to gain much more order. In my day and my life. Stay tuned for my plan to do exactly this. And, if you need a little more order, feel free to join me on this venture by signing up in the form below. Plus, you’ll get free worksheets to help you Gain More Order in your days!
Plus, tell me a little about your mornings and what struggles you have during the day in the comments.
Do your mornings resemble mine in any way? What have you done to gain order or to keep from getting out of order? What kinds of traps to you set and fall into repeatedly?